you see it everywhere, girls always falling for the jerk, or the bad boy.
i'm as guilty of is as any of them. many "experts" have tried explaining or justifying this obsession, yet none have done so in a way that i can completely agree with. while i myself do not have the answer, i will not bow down to their ideologies by always reiterating their theories.
but that's just me.
a... boy i know, commented the other day about how he "doesn't understand why girls always go for the bad boys" and continued with "i guess it's true that the nice guy finishes last"
first off, if this is true, i don't think he has anything to worry about, because as much as he may believe it, i do not believe that he is one of these "good guys"
however, at the time it made me think along different lines.
is this fixation of mine going to continue forever? am i always going to fall for guys that aren't in it for the long run, but for the fleeting high. am i destined to be picking up they ever-dwindling pieces of my broken heart forever?
it's not a very promising future. but then it hit me...
girls [may] fall for jerks, but they fall in love with the nice guy
i said this to my acquaintance, i think he took it as a bit of inspiration for himself. what he didn't know is that ultimately, it was encouraging for me, and my pending future...
~there is a time for everyone to do some self-reflection~
2 comments:
and it's not that nice guys finish last...they just aren't the ones that get noticed first...which is something i've had to learn...assuming of course that i'm one of the 'nice guys'...or am i jerk...anywho i'm glad you're figuring things out
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I think the real key is to find a balance.
A man who is both attractive, and 'seemingly' so much of a catch that he doesn't even notice you... well, that's exciting. But... it usually turns out that he's not a 'catch'... rather, he's just a prick.
Conversely, the kind-hearted gentleman boy... well... he often hasn't learned the art of both doting upon his counterpart, and remaining mysterious. Elusive. Intriguing.
And that's where they lose out.
Romance novels aren't about men who are totally straightforward; they're not cut and dried. The men that mesmerize the female populace are intricate, confusing pieces of man-meat.
Teach your well-intentioned boy the art of mysteriousness, of leaving something the imagination... then you have every woman's dream ;)
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